Because you are tired of yourself.
Dating and relationships are amazing opportunities to learn about yourself. Imagine if we changed our perspective on dating? Imagine if, instead of all this pressure and continued frustration with not finding the one, we used the experiences to discover more about ourselves? The challenge is that the masses (most of humanity) does not want to look in the mirror. The masses do not want to dig deep or take personal responsibility for their life. The masses would rather make excuses, blame, lament about their traumatic childhoods, numb out with all the various ways we can numb out these days, the list goes on and on, rather than look at the truth and heal.
Why is looking in the mirror so hard? It is painfully confronting long before it becomes joyfully exhilarating. The masses choose the easy way, which never yields satisfying results. The road less traveled, the road of conscious living, the road that studies our choices and why we make them, yields a fulfilling life, an amazing life actually.
Who is dating?
People, the masses.
I call the masses, the walking wounded. They walk around, carrying within their bodies, wounds of pain, hurt, resentment, childhood trauma etc. There is a huge problem with walking around with all this stuff inside. These wounds have energy. It’s true. They vibrate. It is a low vibration, and they have an energetic frequency emitting out of them from us, out into the Universe, much like a radio wave. Like energy waves find and enjoy other like energy waves. Bam, we have two walking wounded in a relationship. Two souls that would rather seek solace in each other instead of look inside and heal themselves. Viola, the reason the masses are tired of it all, tired of this stupid dating. It does not work, and never will. Two wounded souls that choose to stay wounded, choose to not look inside, will never feel true fulfillment, NEVER!
How can I make these claims? How do I have the authority to write and speak these ideas with powerful conviction. I was the walking wounded for much of my life. I dated and married and divorced and dated again, revealing an undeniable pattern. I received my value from men, not myself. IT NEVER WORKED! IT ONLY GAVE ME MORE PAIN. I fed these dumb wounds until I found myself in a deep self-loathing state. So much so, I had suicidal tendencies for as long as I could remember. The desire for a beautiful, loving relationship was the catalyst I utilized to get on the self- growth, self-love train. I began to examine my behavior. I took 100% responsibility for the men I dated, why I chose or stayed with them, and I chose to grow. Dating while growing is not for the faint of heart. Support, guidance, and finding Mentors to emulate is a must. The masses may say they want the patterns to stop, but their intention stops here as well. I had a relentless pursuit with fierce determination to be free from my wounds.
Today, I am free! And now I am here, offering my hope, my support, and my guidance.
Stay tuned as we explore the depths of this fascinating series on Dating and Relationships and our huge role in it.
(the picture is the cover of my book, coming very soon)
Release to Unleash
Are you the walking wounded?
Do you have the guts to dig deep, discover the wounds driving your negative patterns in dating and relationships?