What It Means to be a Man & Woman, and Why Patriarchy Does Not Work
I am going to be straight up here.
A Man true to his nature embraces his masculinity and his femininity.
A Woman true to her nature embraces her femininity and her masculinity.
We both have both.
The combination, how it manifests in each of us, is as unique as every snowflake. Men and women are truly equal. Who is the supposed standard combination that someone, somewhere in time, deemed the perfect blend to measure ourselves against? The answer is: no one.
How does Patriarchy fit in this discussion?
Patriarchy forces a man to deny his femininity and forces a woman to deny her masculinity. For centuries, we have lived under the delusion of patriarchy and suffered the consequences of it. Only in the past few decades has the transition been more tangible, thank goodness.
Let’s revisit the supposed Golden Era of the 40’s and 50’s. If women did work, they were confined to such jobs as teachers and secretaries. The big powerful man, with all opportunities available to him, was to go out and make the real money. Women had to make themselves smaller than what was really brewing inside, in order to assimilate to the societal norm. Men, in their own way, had to be smaller too, for there is a feminine aspect to every man that was seen as wrong or inappropriate. Look at today, we’ve even given a name to men who embrace their feminine side, metro-sexual. And, women who embrace their masculine side are considered tomboys. Honestly, we could do away with all labels and reduce gender confusion by accepting the fact that masculine and feminine energy resides in all of us. The greater emergence of the transgender community, which has always secretly existed, proves the validity of my argument here even more. Labels can help define, but they also can be limiting. At least we’re on the path to acceptance, to live however we feel most genuine to ourselves.
In my profession, I have heard (and experienced myself) the intimate stories of women who had continued the legacy of our mothers by making ourselves small in order to be in relationship, until we simply could not shut ourselves out any longer. For the husbands who could not go forward with us, we had to leave through divorce. I see divorce as an amazing catalyst for humanities growth. To not be true to our nature, is self torture. All these women that built up enough strength and confidence to say “I cannot hide myself any longer, and I must leave if you can’t come with me,” I say Hooray! This gave our husbands the opportunity to dig deep, self-reflect, and come out stronger and better too. Of course, the situation can also be reversed with the men not honoring their true selves and needing to leave an unhealthy relationship.
But, we cannot deny the fact that women have had to fight for equal pay, opportunities, and rights. We had to bring our masculinity to the forefront to do it. We are finally turning the corner though, in both genders, of being able to be equal while expressing both qualities of masculinity and femininity. One is not greater than the other. Each brings beautiful qualities to the table. We are finally reaching a point where we can celebrate our differences and similarities and evolve as a whole to a more loving, conscious world.
Let’s be ourselves! All of us! No Shame! Celebrate!
This entire discussion seeps into my dating life. Whether someone was raised under patriarchy makes a vast difference in who I find to be a compatible suitor…my results may surprise you…to be cont…
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