Are you using this statement as an EXCUSE to stay stuck?
Did someone take away your ability to decide?
You’re an adult now.
The mere idea of Change, doing something different from what you have always done, may in fact change your life, and for the better. If you choose to stay in fear, be too scared of the unknown waters of change, the excuse, “That’s How I was Raised,” is readily available.
This is not an indictment on our parents. They did the best they could. The human condition is what it is. In our imperfections, we raise children and develop relationships. Within the context of this human condition, some of us decide to take responsibility and grow up emotionally. No one is exempt. We all have this same situation, with varying degrees and angles. We are all in need of healing. We have to take what we have been taught, filter through that which brings us forward toward our highest good, and rid ourselves of that which holds us back.
This very concept keeps the masses stuck. They cannot bear the thought of believing or acting contrary from their parents. What will they think and do? So, we sacrifice our truth to appease someone else.
The Path to our Magnificence Self and fulfillment by living Our Gift in this world requires:
1. Recognizing we are raised by imperfect parents, who did the best they could with what they had. (This includes releasing blame and resentment toward them.)
2. Grow up, take full responsibility, adapt our beliefs, and create a life that is in tune with our own heart and inner voice.
What are some examples of how we can grow up and heal?
My parents were taught to keep all of their pain inside. To speak of injustice, abuse, or even express their feelings, were not only discouraged, but not tolerated. This is highly damaging to a child’s psyche. All kinds of destructive internal mechanisms are created from such ignorance. I decided this did not work for me. When I started to share the pain that I had hid inside for most of my life, a healing began to occur. My feelings were validated. I was able to release shame and resentment by sharing with trusted, guided mentors.
Another example could be the faith with which we were raised. I personally had to release aspects of my childhood faith when my heart could no longer sustain the contradictions I felt. When I released those parts, it felt as if shackles were broken and I was free. My faith has grown deeper and stronger in miraculous ways because of my willingness to follow my heart.
When we live in a way that contradicts our heart, we cannot have peace.
Have the guts to release the excuse, “that’s how I was raised.” Listen to your heart. Live your truth.
Release to Unleash
Are you able to release the parental grip and create your own truth?