Awareness is HUGE, for without it, nothing can happen.
The next step is ACTION. Intentionally changing thoughts and beliefs and turning them into changed behavior.
It is physically practicing these new beliefs and thoughts, for we have become quite good at living the old thoughts and beliefs that have us in this dismal, unhappy state.
I use the word practice, instead of trying. People say they try all day long, and its lame and lazy. “I am practicing” denotes action.
It appears quite simple. But, the scary thing is that practicing will be scary at first because it will feel foreign, strange, and uncomfortable. We are accustomed to cruising along in life in our unconscious ways. Suddenly being intentional, is a drastic alteration to our life and system.
Which is why there are 5 Requirements to Facilitate Change (your 100% relentless pursuit with fierce determination is a given), moving toward consciousness, embracing Self-Love, thus embracing your purpose and fulfilled life:
1) Support – encouragement, cheerleaders, phone calls and hugs when we need it
2) Guidance – until we have the skill set, we need to learn it from others who have “arrived” in their Self-Love, be Mentored
3) Someone to Emulate -we must borrow the beliefs and actions of someone else who has “arrived” until we can stand on our own 2 feet and make it our own
4) Divine Guidance and Love – this is a constant, but in our unconscious state, we do not recognize it, the above 3 help us see it more and more clearly
5) Self-Love – this incrementally grows as the first 4 steps continue to be implemented, until finally, you have enough Self-Love to actually live your gift and impact others powerfully to do the same
Okay, your saying I can grasp all of this, but I still do not know what to do.
Read my blogs, my book, and work my e-journal. I have “arrived” at this beautiful space of Self-Love, where once I self-loathed and was suicidal. I did the work. I am fulfilled in life by living my purpose. Every single blog, my book, e-journal gives you a new mindset, a new way to believe, and the ACTIONS I took to build huge deposits of Self-Love in my soul bank account. Borrow my beliefs and actions. But, YOU HAVE TO ACTUALLY DO THEM IN ORDER TO FACILITATE CHANGE, GROWTH, AND HAPPINESS IN YOUR SOUL.
It is not a passive exercise. It requires tons and tons of practice. It may even be 2 steps forward and one step back, which is why the above 5 requirements are crucial. I like to describe my journey as a relentless pursuit with fierce determination.
I will give you one tiny but incredibly significant example as to how you can implement Action from a new way of believing by emulating me. About 7 years ago, I was steeped in despair. I had read enough concepts by then. I had vast knowledge from many self-growth gurus, but I was still in pain. Here’s where it gets fun, because Divine Guidance and Love came galloping in on a white horse to begin the process of seeing how I could take action steps to save myself from sad self. Thoughts of the greeting card began percolating in my head, planted there by the Divine. (Yes, it can be as simple as that). I thought about how, when we see a friend or loved one in pain, we sincerely want to show them we care by sending them a greeting card. I had read that I needed to love me first in order to love anyone else. I could read those words, but they were not real for me yet. Then, magically, the message came in, “I want you to go to the store, peruse the greeting cards carefully and intently, and choose one just for yourself. When you find just the right one, go to the checkout, and buy it. Fill it out, write yourself a message, just as you would to a friend you love. Be heartfelt. Place it on your desk, so you see it every day.” Bingo, huge deposits in Self-Love.
I adore this story. It’s beautiful simplicity. I continued to buy greeting cards for myself, filling them out, and placing them where I would see them everyday. I have Self-Love now, but I still do it. I love the symbolism. It reminds me of my journey and reminds me of my new beautiful belief that has taken residence in my soul, love of self must live so I can love others freely and completely.
Release to Unleash
I challenge you to emulate me and buy yourself a greeting card. Tell me how it felt. Would love to hear about your experience.
(the Top picture is the cover to the Birthday card I bought myself this year, and this is the inside:) It is beautiful and makes my heart smile, for I truly believe it.)