I had never seen her not happy. I had never seen her off kilter or shaken. I had never seen her needing to be encouraged. She was the positive, uplifting, right on track one. I could always count on our usual greeting, running to one another as if long lost lovers with a big silly hug wrapped around smiles and laughter and so good to see you expressions. Joyous has been a client for about 17 years. Since she has moved to Vegas, we have had some stints of absence where I have needed to ummm do some fixing, but I am still her main hair girl. She and her Mom make trips to come down and see me. We have built such a bond, that I was one of the first notified of her recent engagement. Of course, I will be attending and in charge of bridal hair at her destination cruise wedding next year.
Back to Joyous being not so joyous. She was still polite, hugging me with a smile, but her usual self had been diminished. I kicked into care mode, giving her exactly what she needed, a quiet, slow, therapeutic head washing. No words were allowed to be spoken. I lovingly told her to relax and receive and she willingly accepted. I gently returned her to the chair, and she shared how she was simply overworked. In the midst of her long hours, her and her long distance fiancé were communicating how their original time frame of being apart was not working any longer either. They needed to be together and needed to figure that out. No doubt crossed my mind that her and her man would resolve the distance dilemma, she would replenish from overwork, and be her usual self in no time. Joyous is one of those individuals we all look to for encouragement. With the task being in my court this day, I gladly took it and just listened.
Her Mom Junebug expressed it perfectly, “we are helping Joyous find her happy.” Junebug has an uncanny ability of revealing the most profound wisdom in the simplest of terms. I loved the phrase and immediately entered it into my phone under notes for blog topics. On the way to the salon, they had stopped at a friends house that she knew would provide comfort for Joyous too. And within the span of my haircut, soon we were gleefully exploring ridiculous options on how to make the favorited not so beachy wedding dress work at her beach wedding.
With Junebugs consent, I am adopting her simple phrase into my own life. I myself had been feeling off balance lately, not my typical grounded self. Going to the mountain for my morning hikes always helps, but I had an insatiable itch to get out of town. My friend Peaceful helped me find my happy by agreeing to go to Sedona with me for the day. His mere presence provided much needed peace, hence his name, a welcome respite from my uncertain status. He enlightened me with stories from his life, which was so nice to take the focus off my own instability, witnessing the strength from him. Soon, my authenticity emerged as I explained how we must play first cactus last cactus, a must be played game originated by my son and me for any road trip heading north out of Phoenix. After browsing through a few art galleries, sharing the beauty that called out to us from each piece and discussing the titles to determine whether it seemed to be a fit, opened up my senses with new perspective and replenishment. We enjoyed fresh organic healthy food for lunch, and let it settle in our tummies by the creek for the rest of the afternoon. Peering through a canopy of leaves by the edge of the stream, asking bizarre questions, and simply enjoying the scene with our kindred energy, was the nourishment I needed to help me find my happy.
What if we all loved ourselves enough to take time to find our happy. Finding our happy does not mean finding something outside of ourselves to fill a void, it is doing things that awaken and remind us of the amazingness inside of us that we momentarily forgot we had. Let us recognize the beauty and honor of either being a recipient of or the facilitator in helping find our happy. Thank you to Junebug, Joyous, and Peaceful for finding our happy together.
Release to Unleash!
How do you find your happy?
Do you invite others to help you find it?