Give What We Wish to Receive
If we want love,
If we want patience,
If we want friendship,
be a friend.
If we want kindness,
If we want acceptance,
accept and don’t judge.
If we want forgiveness,
Can we hush our ego for a moment, that says, “I need this and I need that,” in its toddler like temper tantrum, and try giving instead of demanding.
Can we for one moment focus on our abundance rather than our lack.
Can we for one moment be grateful rather than complain.
This blog is first and foremost, a reminder to myself, to give what I wish to receive. Sometimes I forget and become the demanding toddler, ungrateful and selfish. I offer myself forgiveness, and myself accepts it and feels so good with this gift, that I can move back into giving rather quickly.
Giving what we wish to receive really works.
(Warning for the Over-Giver at the end.)
Here’s a few big examples from my own life (we’ll get to the quick simple life changing ones later):
In relationship, I can have my list of needs. Even without voicing them, trust me, they energetically pressure my partner. When I throw the list away, offer those things within my soul and in my actions, it is like watching a flower blossom in my loved one. It is a secret weapon we can carry with us in our relationships. But, as we all know, our egos are obsessed with what it views as losing, and are great at tricking us into thinking about all the things we DESERVE, and forget all we can GIVE. We always win when the ego loses. Again, we are human, so we need the constant reminder that we can turn our relationships around with simple acts of love.
Into my divorce, my son, not knowing what to do with his conflicting emotions, would lash out at me. At first, I demanded his respect. Then I saw that it was just his hurt speaking. I wanted him to love me as his mother, to honor and accept me. I realized I was so busy being hurt by his hurt, it disabled me from extending compassion. With a reminder from one of my Mentors, I stopped demanding his obedience and extended complete love and compassion for him exactly where he was. Wow, he softened, without any need for punishment or chastisement. I gave love and compassion, and he was able to give it back to me. As a parent, this cycle can happen often. The more we practice, the quicker we can get through them.
Quick ways to Give What We Wish to Receive:
1. Don’t want to deal with a crabby cashier? Smile first, inside our soul, send a happy vibe.
2. Recognize something good about everyone first. Voice a compliment. Watch them beam.
3. Keep our thoughts focused on what we have, not what we lack. We will be blessed with more and others will follow suit.
4. Believe in our loved ones instead of finding their faults. They will do the same back. And, magically, the faults will disappear too:)
Be Gutsy enough to Give More.
We’ll Receive More.
We can’t go wrong.
Love never fails.
Warning: There is such a disease as Over-Giving. The Over -Giver has not learned the art of giving to themselves first. They give at the expense of themselves. They are known as people pleasers. It sounds good, but they can run themselves into the ground trying to make sure everyone is happy. They have not learned the art of nurturing the self first. Our giving should not overwhelm or exhaust us. My wisdom for all the Over-Givers? Force yourselves to give to yourself first, in the way you give to others, and you will be amazed at how wonderful you will feel, and so will the recipients of your kindness. We do not want you to diminish your needs for us. This message for you is equal in urgency as the message proposed in the rest of this missive!
You Deserve to give to yourself.
You Need to give to yourself.
When you do, watch the magic happen:)
Sunshine and Smiles,