It is surprising how long it has taken for society to evolve into understanding that our skin color or gender does not determine our mental capacities or abilities. Thank God the majority of people have grasped this truth. Most of us can agree that men are more physically dominating than women, which is why we do not have girls playing professional football with the boys, and why we have a separate league for women’s basketball, soccer, golf, tennis. and so forth. What does a man holding a door open for a woman have to do with this topic? Well, one could argue that he is dominating her and keeping her lower than he instead of the gentlemanly respect the gesture first taught us. Maybe those archaic thoughts stem from the time period when women were not treated equally in the work force, the man was relied upon to be the sole bread winner, and thus appearing smarter, better, more important etc.
I return to this subject because of dating experiences that awakened the chivalry seeking lady inside me. Let me clarify, I am 100% a feminist. Who makes more money is of little concern to me. Dividing the chores through fair communication is more sensible than any old contrived ideas of what men and women are suppose to do. I will be the first to vote for a woman president, and am frankly sick of all the tie bearing suits presently in Congress (forgive my tirade).
Country Boy was one of the most chivalrous men I had ever dated. Gentlemanly behavior soaked deep into his bones. I did not realize how much I loved it until experiencing it with him. I would never open a door again. His hand was right there before I even knew to look for it as I stepped out of the car. I would never carry something overly heavy, worry about my car, or get frustrated about some undone household handiwork ever again. I felt safe, loved, protected, valuable, and special. I reveled in my womanhood, soared in my femininity, and was so proud to be his girl. I felt how proud and honored he was to be my man. Eventually, this relationship ended, but dating him revealed something I did not know about myself. I love chivalry. Yay!
Men have more testosterone and women have more progesterone. Maybe there is something in these hormones that can shed some light on chivalry. I discovered how good chivalry felt to me. I also saw how good it made a man feel. The man feels important and valuable when he is chivalrous. I believe it feels so good because we are honoring our soul, we are honoring who we really are inside. We are being true to our DNA and that always feels amazing. I thought about the men I have dated in the past that were reluctant to be chivalrous. In actuality, they were more arrogant. They had an ego to protect. An actualized man or woman does not need to protect their ego. Arrogance is born out of insecurity, not security. A secure man can be chivalrous and feel great. A secure woman can be treated with chivalry and feel great.
I have to take this idea into the bedroom, because I believe it is here where my point is solidified. Again, I know there are always a few rare exceptions, but generally, men reach climax quite easily. For women, foreplay starts when we wake up. Sex has an emotional component we cannot deny. Too many men and women have bought into the lie that it doesn’t. My own experiences and 20 years behind the chair of hearing intimate tales from under the sheets speak the truth. We need to be nurtured. We need softness, tenderness, and romance in order to open up to you fully and open up ourselves for that amazing pinnacle of sexual satisfaction. When that happens, trust me men, you will have your tiger. Do you see the connection? We are even designed differently in gender sexually in a way that requires a man to honor us with chivalry in the bedroom as well. I have heard conscious men proclaim how nothing makes them feel more like a man, more satisfied, than pleasing his woman in the bedroom. Again, our DNA is to blame, because nothing makes me feel more amazing than when I allow a man to please me in the bedroom.
Why did I go here? Because sex and climaxing is the most incredible experience we can have with our partners and there are way too many unfulfilled relationships going on out there. It’s time to talk. Women are not climaxing because they would rather fake it than communicate to their mate their needs. Men are either too selfish too ask and don’t care, or are duped from all the faking going on and remain in the dark. Another blog can approach how to open up this dialogue with our mates, but for now, build your confidence, which is what this whole site is about. The number 1 way I have drastically changed every area in my life has been by discovering and embracing my Greatness. My journal is out and available on all the app stores: 10 Steps to Greatness journal. This is a great place to start. Let’s blow this subject wide open and find some real happy.
Release to Unleash?
Do my thoughts on chivalry in and out of the bedroom resonate with you?
Can you briefly share your experiences in order to show others they are not alone either?