You know you’ve made it when….
….you can be alone and feel completely loved.
A smile creeps across my face as I reflect upon the truth of that statement.
I remember the countless nights, in my bed, alone, feeling desperate and sad, longing for the one to share the night and every night thereafter with me.
I remember the countless nights crawling in bed next to someone I did not love. Someone that just filled the space, a feeling even graver than an empty bed.
I also feel the present, as I crawl into bed alone, feeling content and satisfied that I am grateful for right now, with all it has to offer. A deep feeling of love for myself, knowing I will not settle anymore, and share this bed with just anyone, but someone very special that will reflect my values. And in the meantime, just believing in me and the miracles of each day, makes me feel very loved as I crawl into bed by myself.
I tested my aloneness by taking my first solo vacation to Victoria, BC. As I share in another blog, I never felt alone there. It’s as if an invisible energy radiated out to everyone around me to connect with me. They felt my openness for the experience, and divinity cared for me with interactions with delightful strangers. Whether on the plane, ferry, zip lining, or in a coffee shop, people reached out to share a moment with me.
This adventure proved my personal law of trust. If I have an intention, and have the guts (trust) to follow thru with whatever action I have chosen to carry that intention, I will be taken care of.
By trusting my ability to be alone, I do not feel alone anymore. The circumstances and people magically appear when I need it.
Think of the reverse attitude:
I cannot be alone. It is painful. I’d rather have someone than no one.
The result will be just that, you will not be able to be alone. When you will be alone, you will feel sad and hopeless. And those you share your time with, will not satisfy you.
Take a moment to recognize your thoughts on aloneness and how they manifest for you.
The inside does not lie. The outside reflects the inside, always.
My inside felt awesome about conquering my fear of being alone on vacation. I knew I could do it and celebrate the accomplishment. I trusted the process with a childlike enthusiasm. The outside reflected that attitude by meeting all kinds of interesting people effortlessly.
I exhort you to take your loneliness, or any undesirable trait you see in yourself and:
1. Decide to think differently about it. Consciously see the bright side.
2. Visualize yourself in your new attitude, and the wonder and joy you receive in it.
3. Create a situation or event to test your new attitude.
4. Welcome everything that unfolds as you hold your intention.
Celebrate how you can overcome with your own Law of Trust.
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Have you allowed yourself time to be alone?
Are you scared, but willing to try it?