“Beauty Finds Me”
I was reading Nate Berkus’s book last year when I read the phrase “beauty finds me.” I smiled as I continued to read his explanation about how furniture or art seeks him out. His description made him the recipient of beauty, not the searcher. I nodded in concurrence. Wow, we think a lot alike, I thought. In fact, the phrase felt so natural, I wondered for a split second if he stole it from me. Highly unlikely, whomever used it first is of no consequence, I will happily give him the credit. We can borrow it for our purposes today and I may, quite possibly, awaken you to adopt it’s meaning for your own life.
I did not always feel this way. In fact, I would claim the opposite. Much of my life, I felt unloved, lonely, and friendless. I did not like myself. My life choices and unfortunate experiences were a reflection of this sad existence. Even the lovely Nate experienced tragedy in the worst possible way. He and his boyfriend were in the tsunami that swept away hundreds of thousands of lives less than a decade ago, his boyfriend was never found. And yet, he recovered from the injustice and is able to say today, “beauty finds me.”
Why and how does beauty find us? I am going to transition to speaking for myself here, for I did not ascertain Nate’s opinion on the matter. I believe it is because I show up for it. I believe in it. I have a deep knowing it will arrive for me.
Beauty especially finds me in people. My clientele is filled with beautiful people. Beautiful people arrive at my doorstep or sit next to me at a cafe. I believe in the good of people first. You have to prove to me that you are not good, for I will expect your awesomeness to shine toward me first. And guess what, all you skeptics out there, it does. Believing in the good, brings out people’s best. We all have an ugly side and a good side. By being positive and seeing beauty first in people, that is exactly what they give me back.
I met a stranger recently who had been traveling through Phoenix on his way to Texas. The title of my blog rang true and we became friends. I received a text from him, thanking me for a daily deed I had written that gave him a “kick in the pants.” Having endured a recent break up, he needed some encouragement and I was happy to provide it. He blessed me too, inspiring me with his “fierce determination.” I loved the phrase so much, I asked if I could steal it. He said “yes.” Not to diminish my kindred relations with my new friend, but this is a common occurrence for me. Beauty does find me. I am discovering this belief system and its realities in my life, is rare for most. The strangers I meet that quickly become friends and kindred spirits, are awed by our natural, awesome interaction. I am grateful, but not surprised, for this is the wonderful life I have come to expect. It can be a natural phenomenon for you too.
How did I come to embrace this mentality in life?
Before beauty found me, I discovered a treasure. Without this treasure, I do not believe I could own this 3 worded profundity. The treasure is myself. I found my own beauty first. This is where it all begins.
How? How did I find my magnificent treasure in the midst of such self-loathing? I will utilize the first few steps from my 10 Steps to Greatness Journal (which is availble for iPad/ tablet on app, kindle or google play stores), and take you on my journey to self-love, in order to pave the way for beauty to find me.
I became painfully aware of myself and my depressing existence. I saw other joyful people and I started asking, “Why? Why do they have joy and I don’t?
I read the biographies of those I believed to have a happiness I wanted too. I listened deeply to their stories of pain and hardship turned to victory and joy. I believed, “if they could have joy, so could I.” Even though I did not have joy yet, I believed I could.
I took 100% responsibility for my life. I quit the blame game. I stopped making excuses. It was time for me to design my own life.
I drew up an actual contract for myself and signed it. I made my commitment serious and official.
Here is where it begins to get dirty, for discovery is painfully confronting before it can be joyfully exhilarating. This step required bold truth and bold effort in looking at who I was and how I got there. It is virtually impossible to move forward with new positive patterns and beliefs without looking at the natural, comfortable, negative behaviors that brought me to this desperate, unhappy life.
There is much more involved in each of these steps. This brief introduction hopefully inspires you to dig deeper.
Beauty finds me. Self-love opened the door for this supposition to actively live and breathe in my life. Besides my journal, there are many actions to facilitate self-love. Decorating your home with beauty is an act of self- love. Taking care of yourself with a new hairstyle, eating healthy, or simply treating yourself with something you enjoy, is an act of self-love. Get on the self-love train, and beauty will find you along the way.
Release to Unleash!
Does beauty find you? How can you begin to facilitate this lifestyle?