Attention Sensitives: How to Stop Suffering, Celebrate Instead!
The best way I like to help others understand Sensitives is this way:
Imagine walking into a party. Consider all the stimuli; the talking, the music, the lights, the hugs, the smells. Now, consider amplifying all of the sensations received into your being from all of this stimuli and multiply it by 10. This is what life is like for a Sensitive. I believe 10 is a good number for myself, obviously the scale could change, some needing higher or lower numbers, but hopefully the point is made.
There are also emotional consequences of being a Sensitive. We are uber compassionate, sometimes to our detriment. We tend to take on the burdens of others, besides the adversities of our own life.
Any rational human can deduct the implications from being a Sensitive; exhaustion, frustration, and simply feeling bad. Unfortunately, the numbers of Sensitives on anti-depressant/anxiety drugs or using recreational drugs/alcohol, is very high. Some use to cope or numb out. In case we haven’t noticed, the world seems to be getting more and more amped up, causing the Sensitive to really struggle. I do not wish this to be a narrative about how frustrated we can feel as sensitives, feeling misunderstood when we have to say no to invitations, leave early from parties, take great pains to live a very intentioned life including breaks throughout our day to decompress, and on and on.
I recently went through a period of wallowing in my Sensitivity, until a Mentor pulled me out of my dismal “why me” and reminded me to Celebrate Me!
In honor of us Sensitives, I would like to take this opportunity to remind us and the world how magnificent and vital we are to our friends, family, and society as a whole.
Why We Celebrate the Sensitives:
1. Since Sensitives need more recovery time, we spend more time in reflection and deep thought. We are able to bring more depth into any situation, whether a conversation with a friend, or noticing the delicate intrinsicasies of a flower.
2. Many artists, poets, and writers are Sensitives. We have an innate propensity and need to express creatively. To take away our ability to create, is to take away our very breath.
3. Sensitives ooze in compassion. We are the staunch recyclers and animal/human rights activists. Are hearts cannot bear to sit back and relax while injustices remain.
4. We make incredibly loyal, loving, supportive, and forgiving friends and partners. We really care about your happiness. We cannot be happy unless we know we have done what we can to ensure that you feel love and acceptance.
5. We are fun! We can go to the party! We can travel! We might not be able to do it all night, but we can participate, heartily for a time. I have designed a very well-balanced life that includes refueling time throughout my day so that I can be a vital part of life’s frivolity.
Thoughts for Non-Sensitives
1. We Sensitives love you and need you. We do not consider ourselves better, just different. We need you to lift us out of our thoughts into lighter territory. We in turn can take you into the deep waters of meaning with us.
2. We Sensitives will ask to have the music turned off, need to leave an event early, need to wear a specific type of fabric, need to engage in deep conversation, need alone time, and the list could go on. Our sensitives stretch far and wide. Please accept us and know how grateful we are that you accommodate our needs. If we do not take care of ourselves in these ways, we feel miserable. Self-care is not an option for us.
3. Remind us to communicate our feelings and needs so a relationship with us can thrive. Many Non-Sensitives see us as difficult. I am certain much of this misunderstanding comes from lack of communication.
I believe God is bringing more and more Sensitives into the world because our planet needs compassion more than ever. Hooray for Sensitives! Trust me, the Non-Sensitives are equally needed. Who takes over while we’re in the corner quietly refueling?
Yay for All!
Sunshine & Smiles,